James Michael Sama said it best, “there are too many mediocre things in life; love shouldn’t be one of them”. This seems like common sense right? Well, there’s a thin line somewhere between love and reality where delusion is hidden.
de·lu·sion [dih-loo-zhuh]: a belief held with strong conviction despite superior evidence to the contrary
I am not excluding myself out of this equation because I am also guilty of the hazy sugar-coated fallacy of believing I am madly in love, all in the while, not wanting to see the reality of things that are right in front of me. I ask why do some of us blindly overlook the truth within our relationships? The only explanation I had for settling was because I thought I was nitpicking and with love comes compromise, so I thought. One thing is for sure, what I had was not love. Also, my “compromises” were not compromises; they were sacrifices. A mutual understanding to meet each other halfway or to make a deal is to compromise. Due to me being so delusional and lost in “love” I was so blindly sacrificing principal values of mine.
Life is about progress and forward motion1. Settling for a mediocre love is counterproductive of progressing forward. Set clear values for yourself and keep to a strict discipline to ensure that what you’re putting out is what you will receive. I learned this the hard way, nevertheless with life comes growth and wisdom to take with you along your journey.
I don’t worry about yesterday problems and future dreams, I live for the now…
I read that quote tonight while browsing profiles of people in Austin, TX. All I was trying to do was to connect with people in Austin to see how they like the culture, entertainment, and job market. Though, my task became distracted when I read this quote and thought this is something I need to share with you all.
For so long, I have been reminiscing on the past and daydreaming about the future but never really living in the now. Sure, I’m breathing, here, right now, at this moment but am I really alive in the now. One of the meanings of the word “alive” means:
“(of a person or animal) alert and active; animated”
How can I be alert, active, and animated when I am stuck in the state of the past and have a disproportioned view of the future. Here and now I need to live in the moment, be content with the now, and be thankful of being in the presence. The somber complaints of ‘woe is me I am getting so old’ is setback to my own existence. Life is truly what you make it. We all have our bumps in the roads but you haven’t experienced life until you’ve overcome disappointment. There is no point to be stuck in the past; this will only void the present and slow down your future..