James Michael Sama said it best, “there are too many mediocre things in life; love shouldn’t be one of them”. This seems like common sense right? Well, there’s a thin line somewhere between love and reality where delusion is hidden.
de·lu·sion [dih-loo-zhuh]: a belief held with strong conviction despite superior evidence to the contrary
I am not excluding myself out of this equation because I am also guilty of the hazy sugar-coated fallacy of believing I am madly in love, all in the while, not wanting to see the reality of things that are right in front of me. I ask why do some of us blindly overlook the truth within our relationships? The only explanation I had for settling was because I thought I was nitpicking and with love comes compromise, so I thought. One thing is for sure, what I had was not love. Also, my “compromises” were not compromises; they were sacrifices. A mutual understanding to meet each other halfway or to make a deal is to compromise. Due to me being so delusional and lost in “love” I was so blindly sacrificing principal values of mine.
Life is about progress and forward motion1. Settling for a mediocre love is counterproductive of progressing forward. Set clear values for yourself and keep to a strict discipline to ensure that what you’re putting out is what you will receive. I learned this the hard way, nevertheless with life comes growth and wisdom to take with you along your journey.
¹ http://jamesmsama.com/2014/03/25/5-reasons-you-should-never-settle/. Sama, James Michael